Do you remember the days when you did not have entrance to a list of your partner's "friends" or could not see pictures of your date on vacation with his ex-girlfriend? Or when you were not asked to broadcast your association status to the online world?
If you are like most people, those days are a distant memory. New technologies, such as Facebook, have literally changed our dating lives. It is rare for people to be asked on dates over the phone these days - often text messages, Facebook and bbm replace the awkward phone call. Vacation pictures no longer go in an album, but are posted online for past co-workers and your grade 5 lab partner to see. Ex-partners are no longer faceless ghosts from the past, but are alive and well and often on your "friends" list.
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Our explore on Facebook and relationships over the last few years supports something that many of you may already know: Facebook contributes to jealousy in relationships. It's true, we found that spending more time on Facebook is linked with increased jealousy. Ladies, you are especially susceptible to this - not because you are more jealous (men and women in our samples did not differ on levels of jealousy) but because your green-eyed monster is a major Facebook stalker who exposes you to endless updates, albums and posts to fuel your jealousy. In contrast, when men feel jealous they avoid looking at their partner's page.
So how do we date in the age of Facebook? These issues have become so prevalent in our lives that 'defriending' is now a word in the Oxford English dictionary, and Facebook is now used in over 60% of divorce cases. Should we stop friending our partners and start defriending our exes? Should we stop letting our online profiles cause problems in our offline lives? Or should we all log off and return to a simpler time when friends were not listed and pictures went in an album?
One thing is for sure, creeping is linked to Facebook jealousy. The more you creep, the more jealous you feel, and the more jealous you feel, the more you creep. In this chicken and egg cycle, it doesn't matter what came first, if you sell out your creeping, sanity (at least in the form of less jealousy) will follow.
See the former article at http://ediblepantiesblog.com/2010/09/27/relationships-on-facebook-its-complicated/
Relationships on Facebook - It's complicated
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